How To Take Risks
HOW TO TAKE RISKS
“The Biggest Risk in Life is Not Risking.” – Robert Anthony
Everything in life involves risk.
Becoming averse to taking risk means becoming averse to life.
To get something new, you must first let go of what you currently possess.
Human beings are naturally driven towards what is comfortable and familiar. Call it a flaw in the human operating system. Awareness of a problem is the first step in correcting a problem.
In life, we miss 100% of the shots we do not take in life. You can’t win if you don’t play. If you let the possibility of losing keep you from taking risks – you will never win in life.
1) Playing it Safe is The Riskiest Move of All
Life is a chessboard, and the person across from you time. Imagine if you passed every single move while meanwhile, turn after turn time was moving his pieces. Sooner or later you would inevitably be overwhelmed.
Your pieces would fall one by one, until the inevitable Checkmate.
As Napoleon Hill stated so eloquently in his Magnum Opus, “Think and Grow Rich”
“Life is a chessboard and the player opposite you is time. Time will not tolerate INDECISION. Your pieces will be wiped off the board if you hesitate before moving, or neglect to move thoughtfully and decisively.”
Oddly enough the conqueror Napoleon Bonaparte, who Mr.Hill was named after had a similar quote:
“Take time to deliberate, but when the time for action has arrived, stop thinking and go in.” – Napoleon Bonaparte.
Deadlines are critical for success, without deadlines it becomes all too easy to put stuff off into tomorrow.
But tomorrow never really “exists”, at least not in any real sense. Tomorrow usually ends up turning into next week, next month, next year , and eventually NEVER.
2) WHAT IF and the Biggest Deterrent to RISK TAKING: FEAR
At the end of the day the only thing that can really generate any change in your life is ACTION. Wishing will not help, praying will not help.
Only taking swift, determined action. ACTION doesn’t care about RISK. Action says “I can, and I will.”
This is a UNIVERSAL LAW.
Well, I have some news for you. The biggest deterrent to taking ACTION is FEAR. Specifically, the words “WHAT IF?”
What if im not good enough?
What if she doesn’t like me?
What if I can’t do the job?
What if I’m not good enough?.
What if she rejects me in front of everyone and I look like a fool?
What if I fail?
What if I don’t measure up?
You must recognize something critical.
“WHAT IF” is a LIE.
“WHAT IF” is an EXCUSE.
“WHAT IF” is a way for you to JUSTIFY your mediocre lot in life while continuing to IDLYwaste precious time.
“WHAT IF” is your flawed childhood conditioning from an impossible to please ABUSIVE NARCISSIST parent who you were never good enough for. (They were really never good enough for you).
“WHAT IF” is an easy, convenient escape hatch for you to avoid taking any risks or bruising your precious ego. But by closing yourself off from the possibility of trying and failing, you close yourself off from the possibility of winning.
“WHAT IF” sets your rocket up for failure before you even get to launching it.
You must learn to embrace the feeling of fear. Fear is nothing more then a child of excitement.
Nothing worthwhile ever built in this world was ever a guarantee. You were not a guarantee. Their were millions of other sperm, racing to your mother’s womb.
Out of all those millions upon millions, you defied the odds and made it, becoming the person you are today.
“WHAT IF” paralyzes you and shuts down the window of possibility into changing your life from something better then it currently is.
I suggest you cross out the phrase “WHAT IF” from your mental dictionary, and learn to turn fear into a signal you need to act instead of a signal to hesitate.
3) IF YOU HESITATE , YOU WILL MASTURBATE
Picture this. You have just entered a bar from a nightclub. Out of the corner of your eye you see a woman give you a glance of interest from a barstool.
She actively makes it known via her body language and facial expressions that she finds you attractive.
At this point you have two options.
A) Your brain quickly thinks of the worst, most terrible scenario that comes to mine. Scene’s of rejection and public humiliation flash through your head.
You rationalize, hesitate and miss the opportunity. You go home that evening. At 3 AM after a quick masturbation session the post-not clarity hits you like a ton of bricks. A rush of shame, regret and disappointment washes upon you.
What IF you ask yourself? What if I just had the balls to ask her for her number, her name. Anything!
If there is something to gain and nothing to lose by asking, by all means ask! – W. Clement Stone.
You can’t lose what you don’t have.
B) You decide to seize the moment, go up to her, introduce yourself and ask her what her name is. You engage in small talk and conversation.
Eventually, you either physically escalate, or get her number.
One of two things happens at this point: She either rejects or reciprocates your advances.
Either way, you have a definite answer.
When you go to sleep at 3 AM that night, you won’t masturbate.
No, you’ll either sleep satisfied in the knowledge that you tried and got a definite answer, or succeeded and got what you were going after.
REJECTION is ALWAYS better then REGRET.
It’s always better to FAIL, then to NOT EVEN TRY. NOT EVEN TRYING is the worst thing you could do.
Whether it comes to dating, moving halfway across the country, going back to school, trying a new job – Whatever the risk is. TRY IT. You have NOTHING to LOSE and
EVERYTHING TO GAIN!
Being a RISK-TAKER in our society has a negative connotation. That is because most people crave comfort and safety. Not you, my friend.
You’ve decided you’re made for bigger and better things.
BE A RISK TAKER!