- 1 How to Get Your Life In Order
- 1.1 3)How to Get Your Shit Together in 5 Steps
How to Get Your Life In Order
(Why You Needs to Have Your Stuff Together)
How do I get my life in order?
How do I know WHEN I have my life in order.
Trust, me you’ll know.
When you can hold your head up high and be proud of yourself, you’ve got your life together.
When you can bring a woman in your car, back to your place without an ounce of shame, you’ve got your life together.
When you aren’t worrying about how you are going to eat, pay rent next week or pay your bills, you’ve got your life in order.
People can smell a loser vibe a mile away.
Most losers don’t realize this.
I know I didn’t, back when I was broke, living at my parents, with a dead end job, no car, and no hope.
Losers project a defeated aura or vibe.
This defeated aura manifests in weak, submissive, timid body language, weak mannerisms, facial expressions, vocal tonality and behavior.
People consciously and subconsciously pick up on this defeated vibe.
Scarcity, poverty and negativity make people run. Normal people flee from broke losers like you’ve got Ebola or the plague.
You can attempt to fake it. You might even think people can’t see right through you. I’ve got some news for you. 95% of people can read you like a book.
The look of a downtrodden homeless man with nothing to live for is as clear as a blue sky.
Live in any major city and its a look that you will soon encounter on a daily basis.
It is the sad defeated look of a man with nothing to live for.
A guy living in his mom’s basement with no ambitions, no skills and no value puts out a very similar vibe.
This vibe is like the bright coloring on a poisonous frog.
Subconsciously this vibe warns people :
“Stay the fuck away from this human being. He is damaged and if you associate with him , you will be too.”
“People shouldn’t judge.” “Don’t judge a book by its cover.”
These feel good (but ultimately completely false slogans) are useless.
I’ve got some news for you buck-o. People judge others. Everyone judges everyone.
Within seconds of meeting someone, people size each other up. They do this automatically. It is a hard-wired, subconscious human behavior
They create value judgements based on the persons clothing, shoes, haircut, looks, physical appearance, build, height, deformities and mannerisms.
In short, people do JUDGE. Looks do matter, and so does the way you carry yourself.
Which brings me to my next point.
YOU JUDGE YOU.
That’s right, YOU JUDGE YOU.
You subconsciously judge yourself every day of your life.
How do I know this? Because I am a reformed loser.
I consider the person I used to be a loser compared to who I am now.
I had my first sexual experience with a woman at 13, then 18 but it wasn’t until 24 that stuff actually started happening with the frequency I wanted.
Part of this was due to active an inactive sabotage by my shitty parents.
It’s not until now that I’ve looked back and realized just how shit my parents were and how much their lack of care stunted my growth.
(My parent’s were extremely religious, paranoid and actively cockblocked and sabotaged me).
My mom sent me to live with an abusive bipolar narcissist scumbag father in a 3rd world shithole.
My dad was an abusive narcissist who constantly put me down and saw me as an extension of himself.
See my article on the Crab in A Bucket Mentality. Just because your family is related to you by blood, does not mean they have your best interests at heart.
I was not allowed to go to parties or hang out with kids outside of school. My parents actively sabotaged my social development.
I spent age 16-19 in a primarily Muslim country called Jordan. My mom sent me off to live with my dad. Schools over there were segregated by sex, and you had to be rich and well-connected to have a girl-friend there.
I had neither at the time. Spending 3 years over there definitely stunted my development.
My mom lied and said she was going to send me to a private British English School and I would only be there for a year.
Instead I went to a shitty public school for 3 years.
If you happen to be a male virgin, I would never advertise this fact to women you are dating.
It will not earn you sympathy, but disgust and contempt.
I had no zest for life. I had no desire to succeed.
I didn’t even have a car. My time and energy were uselessly wasted on video games, porn and procrastination.
I hopped from dead end job to dead end job – like making people sandwiches.
I CARRIED MYSELF LIKE A LOSER.
BECAUSE I JUDGED MYSELF AS A LOSER.
Guess what people treated me like?
People outsource the difficulty of judging complete strangers by evaluating how the stranger carries themselves.
If you carry yourself like a loser with low self-confidence and self-esteem PEOPLE WILL ASSUME YOUR JUDGEMENT OF YOURSELF IS ACCURATE.
ALWAYS CARRY YOURSELF LIKE A WINNER.
NO MATTER WHAT.
ACT AS IF. HOW WOULD YOU ACT IF YOU WERE NOW THE MAN YOU WANTED TO BE?
CARRY YOURSELF IN THAT MANNER AT ALL TIMES.
3)How to Get Your Shit Together in 5 Steps
Step 1: Get Your Own Place
This helps so much. By having your own place, by being the King of your Own Castle you act like a KING.
A KING CARRIES HIMSELF LIKE THE LORD OF THE LAND.
BE THE KING OF YOUR LAND.
ACT IN A ROYAL FASHION TO BE TREATED LIKE A KING
This is an internal behavior and belief. It has nothing to do with being rich or royalty.
This is known as “logistics”. Good logistics (like a house near a big downtown area or a club) make getting laid easier.
In order of preference: Your own place > shared space with roommates > living with family
Step 2) Get Your Own Car
This modern world we live in was designed with cars in mind.
About the only city in the USA you can comfortably live without a vehicle and be considered normal is New York City.
I didn’t own my own car until I was 25. Can you believe that?
25 years old experiencing the world as a passenger, having to endure shitty public transporation, subways, smelly buses and having to wait for rides.
That and the human garbage and dregs of society I had to share the transportation with.
Having a car is having freedom. The freedom to traverse large swathes of distance in rapid amounts of time.
Without a car, you won’t have much.
You won’t have much opportunity.
You won’t have much of a dating life.cash
You won’t have much of a career.
You won’t have much time.
If your one of the rare exceptions who lives in New York, then you can ignore this part. But an exception is just that – an exception.
Without a car in this day and age, you might as well be a handicapped paraplegic.
Socially, Financially and Physically. You’re options are severely limited.
Public transportation is disgusting and tends to be full of the dregs and scum of society.
Don’t buy a brand new late model car. Buy whatever reliable used car you can afford to pay 100 percent cash for up. front
Step 3) GET A MARKETABLE SKILL, TRADE , BUSINESS OR DEGREE
Without a unique skill set, trade, business or degree, you will be a dog at the mercy of your master. Your master is your employer.
He owns your ass. He’s got you by the leash. FIRMLY.
The less specialized you are, the easier you are to REPLACE. You are expendable.
No not Stallone’s rag tag band of rich mercenaries. The sad, vulnerable, weak kind.
Now, flip the script.
Imagine you have a highly in demand, well compensated, marketable skill. You have your boss by the neck.
You know you don’t have to tolerate bad treatment, disrespect, poor pay or a bad deal from anyone.
You know that you have options and by proxy, leverage.
Become invaluable and irreplaceable in the market place.
A man with an in demand skill like plumbing, sales, welding will never lack for a job or food. These skills are universal and always be in demand somewhere.
Can you say the same about a philosophy, liberal arts or theology degree?
Idle hands are the devil’s workshop.
Without clear goals and written priorities, its easy to let life deteriorate into days of porn, internet surfing, pornography, junk food and TV and Streaming.
The DAYS add up and turn into WEEKS.
THE WEEKS add up and turn into MONTHS.
THE MONTHS add up and turn into YEARS.
Before you know FIVE PRICELESS YEARS OF your life are gone and you have absolutely nothing to show for it. Nada. Zilch. Precious youth wasted. Gone.
But you can change all that friend. The next five years don’t have to be like the last five.
You don’t have to make the same painful mistakes that other people have.
You can choose to learn from and take the advice of others.
Have a written plan. Visualize what you want for your life.
Decide who you want to be.
Finally, and most importantly. Take constant, consistent, measurable action. Every single day.
Every single hour. Every single minute.
Without a clear direction, you will drift about aimlessly. Without a clear purpose, your will lack resolve and the will to get up it in the morning.
Step 5) ASSUME TOTAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE
Victimhood is for the weak and powerless. Victims never assume responsibility for where they are in life. Instead they blame others.
Victims always find someone or something to blame their poor life decisions and results on.
If you ever want to stop getting by and start getting ahead, you must hold yourself accountable.by
Only by assuming complete responsibility for your life can you move from victim to responsible adult.
Only by shedding victimhood and assuming absolute responsibility will you have the proper mindset to be a winner in life.
1)Have your own place 2) Have your own car 3) Have a Marketable Skill 4) Have Goals, Plans, and take ACTION 5) Assume Full Responsibility
That’s how you have your shit together.
Until next time – AJ Lifts