How to Not Give a F
Part 1 of 2
Who gives a fuck ? How many fucks should we give? What makes people care? Why THE FUCK should you read this article?
If your tired of getting fucked over in life.
If your tired of losing the girl you desperately want.
If your tired of getting passed over for that promotion or job.
Then read on friend. Read on.
1)Outcome Independence & the Scarcity Mindset
What is OUTCOME INDEPENDENCE?
Outcome Independence means, whatever happens you don’t care. You will handle it.
Outcome independence is the subtle key to winning with women, in interviews and in life. Outcome independence, means no matter what, you don’t give a fuck what happens.
You don’t give a fuck if the girl you met text’s you back in an hour, a day or a week.
You don’t give a fuck if you get passed over for a promotion.
You don’t give a fuck if you don’t get that job you just interviewed for.
Unfortunately, most of us have been conditioned from birth to live a safe, comfortable, risk adverse life of QUIET DESPERATION – with TERRIBLE CONSEQUENCES.
You’ve been brainwashed, indoctrinated , and told time after time lies by SOCIETY, your PARENTS, your TEACHERS and your RELATIVES. They meant well. Probably. Maybe.
Most of us are conditioned from an early age to view the world from a place of scarcity, fear, and lack.
This is called a SCARCITY Mindset.
You see, when you view the world from a place of lack, you will act as if everything is in short supply.
You will act DESPERATE.
You will act NEEDY.
You will act out of FEAR.
People can smell desperation and the SCARCITY mindset from miles away. It repulses people. It makes employers not want to hire you. It makes you come off like a loser to them.
IT’S NEGATIVE POISON.
2) Your Mental Home (And how to Remodel it)
What the fuck is a mental home?
Your mental home is that mental state and the thoughts to which you most often return to.
If you have the misfortune to possess a Scarcity mindset, you will always be fighting an uphill battle.
That is because, fundamentally a scarcity mindset is negative, and negativity and desperation make people want to stay far, far away from you on an unconscious level.
They may not know it, they may not realize it but it guides them all the same.
So now we will talk about remodeling your mental home from a woodshed to a mansion.
To do this, you must make a firm commitment.
A firm commitment to adopt a positive mental attitude.
What is that Positive Mindset? The ABUNDANCE MINDSET
THE ABUNDANCE MINDSET means – this world is a place of plenty. Other people’s success does not affect my ability to succeed or do better for myself.
I’ve got some good news for you, friend. In spite of the lies you’ve been taught to believe, this world is a place of ABUNDANCE and PLENTY.
Just because someone else wins, doesn’t mean you can’t also win.
IN FACT, THE FACT THAT ONE PERSON WON IS PROOF YOU CAN WIN TO.
WHAT ONE MAN CAN DO, ANOTHER MAN CAN ALSO DO.
Let the success of others motivate and inspire you into a positive, productive frenzy.
When you have an ABUNDANCE MINDSET YOU:
1) DON’T OBSESS ABOUT ONE WOMEN IN A SEA OF 4 BILLION
2) DON’T CLING TO YOUR DEAD-END SOUL SUCKING JOB BECAUSE YOU KNOW YOU ARE THE PRIZE AND HAVE OPTIONS
3) DON’T CARE ABOUT ONE OPPORTUNITY – THIS WORLD IS FULL OF MORE OPPORTUNITY THEN YOU CAN EVER KNOW.
When you have an ABUNDANCE MINDSET you treat yourself like a valued, treasured commodity. Not other entities. Not your steady 9-5. Not a random girl you fell in love with. YOURSELF.
And guess what?
Just like people are unconsciously repelled by the negative, pessimistic, beta, SCARCITY MINDSET.
People are also unconsciously attracted by the POSITIVE, optimistic, ALPHA, ABUNDANCE mindset.
ABUNDANCE comes from a place of PLENTY. PEOPLE are attracted to SIGNS OF POWER, PRESTIGE, RESOURCES and STRENGTH.
When you come to WOMEN, INTERVIEWERS, CLIENTS and EMPLOYERS FROM A PLACE OF ABUNDANCE, THEY ARE INFLUENCED and ATTRACTED to you like a magnet.
They cannot help but want to associate with you. Your attitude is infectious.
When the girl who randomly texts you asks herself why you haven’t texted back, she asks herself ” Why isn’t he blowing my phone up like all the other guys” Maybe he has another girl?
WHEN YOU HAVE ABUNDANCE, YOU CAN AFFORD NOT TO CARE.
IN THIS GAME OF LIFE, HE WHO CARES THE LEAST WILL ALWAYS WIN.
HE WHO CARES MOST, WILL ALWAYS LOSE.
Make sure you take painstaking, diligent, disciplined effort to change your mental home to a positive one. It’s the only place your mind has to reside.
No matter what. You will slip up back into your old SCARCITY MINDSET. That’s okay. Just make sure to change the way you view this world until it sticks.
Remember. When you view this world from a place of ABUNDANCE, you cannot LOSE. You will always WIN. Those few inevitable setbacks you encounter on the path to wealth and success are just that – temporary setbacks and roadblocks.
Nothing to give a precious FUCK about.
3) Indifference Makes the Difference
Indifference – (n.) lack of interest, concern, or sympathy
Indifference means not caring. It’s the polite way of saying not giving a fuck.
In the grand game of life, he who cares the least wins. Think im wrong? I’ll give you two examples.
You go to a used car dealership in the middle of Bumfuck, Nowhere-ville USA.
You tell the dealer how you are stranded in the middle of nowhere and need a reliable car. You express to him with your body language, words and fear the plight of your predicament.
He should respect you more right? He should worship the ground you walk on, right?
Well. Not exactly. He sells you a car that’s not safe to drive. In fact it’s a death trap. Not only that…but its worth $400 and he sells it to you for $2,000. He smells your desperation from a mile away.
You see he can’t help himself. It’s human nature you see. To fuck over the weak. To prey on them.
STOP Stereotyping used car dealers you say. They aren’t all like that.
Actually… that really happened to me. I was a naive, early twenties kid. I could have died. All because I said too much, came off desperate and was too invest in the outcome.
Now lets run that same scenario, knowing what I know now.
I tell the greasy looking salesman for a decent used car. I tell him I just got done talking to the dealership across town and they offered me X for Y. Can he do better?
When he shows me what’s available in the price range , I nit pick every detail. I have a mechanic look at the car. I don’t act needy or desperate.
Quite the opposite. I act on the fence, aloof and indifferent.
He gives me his price, after I talk him down as much as possible. Finally, I WALK AWAY from negotiation.
You heard me right. I WALK AWAY. With full intent. I don’t put on a show, I don’t look back.
Five minutes later, he calls my cell phone.
“Would you do $800? I’ll throw in a free battery!” he says, in a voice that communicates desperation and neediness.
I make him feel like he needs me and my business more then I need his stupid , dump of a car.
Suddenly, that $2000 car became a $700 steal. He needs me more then I need him. I have the power now. I have him by the balls. We both know it.
I get a deal that the timid/agreeable and “nice” version of me would never get.
In this grand game we call life….
Indifference makes all the DIFFERENCE.
Always be indifferent