Do Looks Matter?

(In Dating and Sexual Attraction.)

YES. OF COURSE LOOKS MATTER.

The question is HOW MUCH?

Social outcasts and sexually inexperienced men (AKA, Incel’s think that looks are all that matter.)

Delusional people tell you they don’t . The flip side of that coin is depressed nihilists tell you looks are everything.

The truth, like most things in life, actually lies SOMEWHERE IN THE MIDDLE.

“Looks aren’t everything – but they damn sure aren’t nothing, either.” – AJ Lifts

My message is about self-improvement in every aspect of your life.

Whether that be your body, mind, spirit or bank account.

Here is my personal analogy regarding the looks, money status debate.

For a woman to accept your romantic advances towards her, YOU MUST MEET OR EXCEED HER MINIMUM ATTRACTION THRESHOLD.

NO INITIAL PHYSICAL ATTRACTION = NO RECIPROCATION.

Yeah, it’s that simple.

Before you get up in arms and go on a rant about how all women are bitches and sluts, realize one thing.

Men judge women just as harshly by their looks as woman judge men.

WE ARE JUST HORNIER.

When a person first meets another person, all they have to go off of is that person appearance.

Here is the CAVEAT

LOOKS GET YOU IN THE DOOR, CONFIDENCE AND DOMINANCE SEALS THE DEAL AND MONEY, STATUS AND PASSION HELPS YOU RETAIN THE GIRL

IE, if you are a broke male model living in your mom’s basement you may get one night stands.

Once the girls realize you are a broke bum with nothing going on, they will DUMP YOUR ASS LIKE A BAD HABIT.

The real truth pill to swallow is not that Looks are the be all end all.

The real truth pill is that having good looks is just what initially attracts the girl to you.

That just gets you in the door.

To keep a girl in the door, you’ve got to be a man of substance.

Being a man of substance means you have to have something going for you – you’ve got to be a somebody, not a nobody.

You may get a lucky one-night stand off being a girls physical type, but you will NOT be able to retain her unless you have something going for you.

Sooner or later she will realize that looks is all you have going for you, and she will move onto the next attractive man – only he will be a somebody.

So sorry to put it so bluntly, but that is how things work.

I know from personal experience.

Looks are a scapegoat for incel types. Their are a few horrifically ugly men who nothing can be done for.

These men are OUTLIER’s. They are the exception, not the rule.

Women can sit still and look pretty and have men ready to provide at their beck and cell.

Even homeless women will find a lonely, thirsty man desperate enough  to take them in at a moment’s notice.

Men cannot afford such a luxury.

MEN HAVE A BURDEN OF PERFORMANCE.

What is a burden of performance?

It means that society collectively has certain standards and expectations for every man in it.

If you fail to meet those expectations, you are considered a loser by society.

Nobody will feel sorry for a man who is unable to provide for himself or those under his care.

Inexperienced men believe once they get the girl in a relationship they can take it easy and stop putting in the work.

Unfortunately, that is a recipe for losing the girl.

The real truth pill is that dating never stops.

You must continually maintain a standard of performance, be making money, looking good, being charismatic and exciting to be around.

Easy?

No it isn’t easy.

That’s why it’s called being a MAN, not a boy.

A man becomes a man when he understands and internalizes that looks are simply the starting point to sexual attraction.

Their is nothing worse then constantly have to be prospecting for new women because the ones you meet and have sex with are ghosting you.

In sales, it’s much easier to sell to a repeat customer then to cold-call a stranger.

Women are no different.

“Prospecting” for a sexually available female is a time consuming experience.

In Conclusion: 

Looks matter in dating the way oxygen matters to a plant.

Looks are the starting point of physical attraction, but you also need water (Finances and shit together) and sunlight (Confidence/Good Personality/Fun to be Around/Experienced.)

Those who take either edge of the fence are simply looking to have their rigid world views enforced.

People who say looks don’t matter at all are either naive, delusional or straight up lying.

People who say looks are all that matter are generally low status, sexually inexperienced males with terrible lives and no finances who are jumping to the incorrect inclusion that their looks are the problem, when in reality their lives as a whole are mediocre.